Things I Wish I Knew Before Starting a Kitchen Remodel

Things I Wish I Knew Before Starting a Kitchen Remodel

I’m not going to lie… starting a kitchen remodel can be daunting. And the first kitchen renovation project I ever took on was a bit of a doozy.  When it comes to kitchens, there are SO MANY factors and customizations to consider that it can be totally paralyzing to pick materials.  And that’s the fun part of it!  Don’t even get me started on the snags you can run into with plumbing, layout, and more.  After working on hundreds of kitchens over the years, I’ve learned some serious pro tips I’m going to share with you to help you get your project off on the right foot.




Since my knowledge of kitchen reno projects knows no bounds, I had my Built Custom Homes team create a Q&A with me to help me organize my thoughts.  I’m sharing all the Things I Wish I Knew (and kicking off a super informative new monthly series with you guys!) before starting a kitchen remodel. So hopefully you can get your project headed in the right direction!  Whether you’re just painting your cabinets a new color or ripping everything out and starting over, I’m hoping these tips will help you make the best decisions for your project.  Let’s get to work!


Starting a Kitchen Remodel: Things I Wish I Knew

1. How important is it to start with your WHY for remodeling the kitchen?

That is, before you make any purchases or demo anything? Why do you need to answer questions with yourself and your contractor to figure out your space’s needs? The first thing you should start with on any remodeling project is the “why.”  For the kitchen, it’s why you’re redoing it and what you hope to accomplish.  Do you need more space?  New everything?  Seating?  Better lighting?  Making a list of “why” you’re redoing your kitchen will help you stay focused when you actually start making decisions.  We can get really sidetracked with crazy tile patterns, expensive appliances, etc., and end up losing vision of our original goal.



2. What’s the first thing you need to consider when starting a kitchen remodel?

The first thing to consider when updating your kitchen is EVERYTHING.  Ha!  No, but really, you can’t just start picking things at random and expect everything to fall into place.  The place I always start with is making a list of everything I need to decide on, from start to finish.  This list could include: flooring, cabinets, countertops, backsplash, cabinet hardware, fixtures (faucet, etc.), sinks, appliances, lighting, wall and ceiling paint colors… the list gets long!  However, if you think you might change the floor plan of your kitchen, that would be the best place to start.



3. What’s the most timeless or classic material you could use in a kitchen?

Easy answer: subway tile.  Unpredictable answer: marble.  Best of both worlds – use them together!  If you want a really “safe” and timeless kitchen, don’t try to reinvent the wheel!  Look no further than a beautiful white subway tile and marble (or marble look) countertops.  OR, you can mix it up and do clean white quartz countertops and marble 3×6” tile for the backsplash. 



4. What’s the biggest mistake you’ve seen made when people attempt to update this space?

Oh wow, so many!  I would say getting too caught up on having a “white kitchen” because their last kitchen was dark.  You want your kitchen to be bright and airy, I get it, but you still want to have a little something going on with other textures (think butcher block or reclaimed wood shelves), colors (think about painting your island a fun color), or with materials (there’s more to life than just plain white countertops – I promise).  The other mistake I see all the time are pendant lights above the island that are too small and make a space feel busy and cluttered.  If the light isn’t bigger than your head, in my opinion it’s too small.


5. What’s the WORST material to use in the kitchen that *seems* like a good idea but actually isn’t?

Well, that’s easy because it’s in my own kitchen – marble!  I love the look, don’t get me wrong, but natural stone stains and etches.  Everyone warned us before we put in our honed marble countertops, but did we listen?  Nope!  We spent years following our friends around with coasters until we finally found a UV COATING solution that made our marble countertops as durable as quartz.  So if you’re going to get marble, make sure you know what you’re getting into. Other options that look really similar are porcelain or quartz.



6. What’s a surefire “can’t reverse that” change in the kitchen people should know about before starting a kitchen remodel?

Once you move plumbing in a kitchen, that’s where it’s gonna stay.  If you have a raised foundation house, it’s easier, but most of the houses in Southern California are on a “slab” of concrete, so moving plumbing is a big deal.  Before you move any plumbing, make sure you ask yourself “why.” Is the floor plan change going to accomplish the goals from your original list?

*In both the Before & Afters above and below, the kitchen flow changed drastically without having to move the plumbing.



7. Why is it important to consider resale in the kitchen?

We’ve all heard “the kitchen is the heart of the home,” and I think it’s true.  The kitchen is so important for resale value.  It will sell your house, but even quicker, it will NOT sell your house.  Meaning, a good kitchen is NECESSARY if you want top dollar for your house.  The good news is, any money you put into your kitchen, you will get back out when you sell your house.  People are looking for updated kitchens and will pay a premium for this room being beautiful and functional.  So when you’re designing your kitchen (appliances, tile, countertops, cabinets, etc.) try to keep in mind a few things…




The current value of your house and what level of finishes makes sense for your house.  Don’t put a $40,000 kitchen into a property that’s worth $120,000 total – that makes no sense.  But on the flip side, don’t put a $40,000 kitchen into a property worth $3,200,000 – that also doesn’t make sense!

The style of your house.  If you have a Spanish Style Tudor, don’t ignore that fact when designing your kitchen and put an ultra mid-mod style kitchen in.  It just won’t feel right!  Also, your kitchen should be part of the same design aesthetic as your bathrooms. So if you aren’t redoing your bathrooms, you should take that into consideration.

*The bathroom pictured below is in the same house as the kitchen picture above – cohesive is key!

What MOST people like is so important to understand when designing a kitchen with a mind towards resale.  If you show your favorite backsplash tile to 5 people and 4 of them think it’s too wild, it will be up to you to make the decision . Stick to your guns and take the risk, or pick something more approachable and lock in your resale value.  Remember, you can always add that “pop” with fun kitchen towels, art, and accessories.  Tile is forever!

8. If you had to tell a homeowner ONE thing that should definitely be left up to the pros and not attempt on their own, what would it be?

Plumbing and electrical are tied for first place on the list.  Both of these should be done by licensed contractors – you need to pull permits, and you need it done RIGHT.  I don’t mess with either and I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen these projects done wrong, putting the entire family in harm’s way

9. If someone could only make one change to their kitchen, which one would have the biggest impact?

Painting the cabinets is the easiest way to make a big impact in the kitchen.  A close second (and sometimes it’s less expensive than painting) is “refacing” the cabinets.  This is when a company comes in and takes your old cabinet doors and drawer fronts and replaces them with new ones.  It’s amazing how much of a difference this can make.

10. What’s the most common problem you’ve run into with ordering materials for the kitchen?

Where do I begin?  Ha, just kidding.  One of the most common problems I run into is fitting appliances into cabinets.  When redoing a kitchen, the appliances are one of the last things to go in, but they have to be chosen at the very beginning because the entire kitchen is built around them.  Sometimes the “specs” (that’s the factory measurements from the manufacturer) are a little off or are misleading and things don’t fit.  That’s the worst feeling, so double/triple check and, if possible, get your appliances delivered before you build your cabinets.

11. Anything else you want to add?

Of course! A few tips:

  • Your local tile shop is your friend, go there and spend some time looking at tile.  You won’t regret it!
  • It’s fun to use handles on drawers and kitchen cabinet doors.  You don’t have to use a knob anywhere in your kitchen if you don’t want to.
  • Find some photos of kitchens you love and identify what it is about the photos that draws you to it.  Then print those photos, make notes about what you like, and show them to your contractor or cabinet designer.
  • Don’t forget the lighting!  Add can lights in the ceiling, add pendant lights over your island, and add under-cabinet lighting to make sure your countertops and backsplash are well lit.  You’re in your kitchen A LOT when it’s dark outside, but you don’t want it to be dark inside as well.




  • I agree when you mention that you will work with a professional at some point unless you’re rebuilding your kitchen and handling your plumbing and electrical work. We are planning to remodel and renovate our kitchen soon. My husband and I agreed we should hire a professional to help us do the job.

    Georgina Mckenzy

    on January 17, 2023

  • Thank you for sharing, useful information keep on sharing.

    Neobest Mattress

    on January 17, 2023

  • I love the idea of subway tiles and marble! I never considered doing both. We just finished tearing everything out (and it was a big project in itself, big enough for a dumpster rental) and we’re finally putting everything back in! I love the look of using marble so I’m going to look into getting subway tiles, too. Thanks for the tips!

    Jeanie Manser

    on December 08, 2022

  • I appreciate how you said that when you want to redesign your kitchen, it is a great idea to search for some pictures of kitchens you enjoy. Additionally, it would be a good time to look through the catalogs of the local contractors. You should look for a kitchen renovation contractor that has completed other jobs that are comparable to what you are looking for.

    Taylor Abrams

    on December 08, 2022

  • Thanks for such a great blog. The last snap shop related to tips was very helpful, specially when you advised that it is not important to use knobs, use handle instead. I think it depends if the house has kids, and knobs are easily removable to make the cabinets kitchen friendly and hazard free and also easy to wipe off vs handles. Thanks for sharing great inputs and feedback. Keep up the great work. Regards,


    on December 07, 2022

  • Thanks for sharing such an amazing and informative article. As a professional, I really like the way that you describe all the things about kitchen remodeling.

    kitchen Remodel

    on November 18, 2022

  • I like how you mentioned that it is a good idea to find some photos of kitchens you like when you are wanting to remodel yours. In addition to that, it could be a good idea to check out the portfolios of the contractors that live in your area. You would want to find a renovation contractor that has done projects in the past similar to what you want.

    Thomas Clarence

    on November 12, 2022

  • I was about to start my kitchen remodel, and I’ve come across this page just at the right time. I bet it will end up helping me out so much more.

    Greg Rusch

    on November 08, 2022

  • I appreciate you sharing. Your piece about kitchen remodel was interesting to read. This content will be bookmarked for sure.

    Mortgage Broker Australia

    on November 04, 2022

  • Thanks for sharing this informative post! Keep sharing!


    on November 01, 2022

  • Thanks for sharing your valuable experience! It will be helpful for the people who are thinking to renovate their kitchen!

    Universal Stone

    on November 01, 2022

  • Great post! Thank you for sharing “Things I Wish I Knew Before Starting a Kitchen Remodel.” As a homeowner, I’ll take note of this. Amazing write-up. Contact us if you need more information about renovation or remodeling materials for the upcoming blogs.

    Access Door and Panels

    on October 28, 2022

  • Jasmine, thank you for sharing this fantastic information! If not done correctly, a kitchen renovation may be a real pain. For the best results, make a strategy and stick to it. Before beginning the renovation project, I feel it is critical to prepare oneself physically and psychologically. You must assess your demands and create a renovation schedule. Once you’ve determined the project’s objectives, start shopping, keeping your budget in mind. This should help you avoid some of the trouble.

    Karen Wilson

    on October 26, 2022

  • I am not sure where to start…but I will start with a thank you for the time you took to compose all your ideas in this article. I love the subway tile idea, but also your closing thought that visiting a local tile store will inspire even more unique, creative ideas that match the style. Also, great practical advice for the price of the kitchen remodel…it has the match the price of the house overall, or it has become overkill…or in the example of the $3,200,000 home, not worth the time. Your before and after pictures are great, and on most of them I can hardly believe it is the same kitchen…but I guess that is the goal of a remodel. There is so much more I could say, but your page is definitely one I will come back to for ideas both now and in the future.

    Joshua Rodenburg

    on October 26, 2022

  • I appreciate how you emphasized that EVERYTHING should be taken into account while upgrading your kitchen. My mother will find the little anecdote humorous since she loves to spruce up her entire house every year. Next year though, I hear she’s planning on hiring kitchen renovation service so that’s something to look forward to.

    Taylor Abrams

    on October 21, 2022

  • Nice Article…Very interesting to read this article. I have learned some new information. Thanks for sharing.

    Charli Kiek

    on October 14, 2022

  • This blog is very nice blog and I got more information from this blog. This blog is very great for information.

    Phoebe Durack

    on October 14, 2022

  • Knowing the why behind your kitchen remodel is crucial to a successful remodel. Thanks for sharing!

    Kitchen Remodeling Orange County NY

    on October 04, 2022

  • Yoo-hoo! Hey there. You were really nice for talking us through the process of avoiding marble installations for our cooking space since they easily catch stains. I was asked by my sister the other day to share any relevant idea for her kitchen remodeling project which will start next month. Based on what I’ve read here, I think she should just find the right professionals to carry out the task properly afterwards.

    Amy Saunders

    on October 04, 2022

  • My husband and I have been looking for ways to improve the look of our kitchen for nearly a month. I loved what you said about painting the cabinets being the easiest way to improve the look of your kitchen. I’ll have to call a contractor to see what other solutions we could implement!

    Eve Mitchell

    on August 29, 2022

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