I'm 41 & Pregnant, Here's What I Didn't Expect

Being pregnant at 41 wasn’t necessarily the plan, but I love doing things my own way. My husband and I have been together for 20 years and we made an intentional decision to focus on our friends, family, careers, and traveling, and to wait until the time felt right to have kids. It wasn’t easy, but I’m so glad I listened to my own biological clock.

If you’re new here, I have a six year old daughter, Hazel, and an almost two-year old daughter, Darla. After a very traumatic birth in 2024 (who was here for the canyon in the mountain?!) and a hard first year, I wasn’t sure my 41 year old body would be able to carry a baby. But the doctors assured me I was stronger than ever, in great health, and my hormone tests showed that I wasn’t anywhere near perimenopause. I knew I felt great but it was reassuring to hear it from the professionals.

And after having Darla, I had a feeling deep inside that we weren’t done trying to grow our family! It took medical intervention and about a year of fertility support to get pregnant the second time around, so once we made our decision to try again, I never expected to have a spontaneous pregnancy right away.

The first trimester has been hard. The nausea has been unrelenting and the fatigue has been so much more than my other pregnancies. I’m hopeful that these symptoms pass and I have a chance to enjoy the experience this time around. And if not, at least I know what I’m in for and that I’ll survive it. There’s a certain zen that comes from being in my 40’s and now being pregnant. It’s nice to just trust my body and let it do its thing.

Marching to your own drum is never easy and this is such a personal decision, it takes a lot of mental fortitude to keep your confidence and not start doubting yourself. The good thing is, at this point I’ve been building my own happiness and letting other people have their own opinions for a long time. That means that I don’t have to do things the way everyone else does, and I know that’s not only ok, but usually better. Unique isn’t an accident, it’s a lifestyle.

We can’t wait to meet Baby Roth #3!